Moving From Level To Level In Life

Happy Thursday Bloggers!

Hope you've all been having a great week so far :) This week didn't start quite so well for me, as I let late nights and lack of planning deter me from attending Mondays lectures #Whoops, however Tuesday and Wednesday were much better and shall we say successful days and I attended all. It may not sound like much of an achievement  to you but  anyone who has ever experienced 4 hours worth of lectures back to back, will understand how tedious this can become, even if you do like the subject (my life sounds so exciting, right?). 

Anywho! 

Last week I had an introductory lecture to the second semester and my professor was talking about moving from level 1 to level 2, and it got me thinking about life and how we move from one level to another. (Or at least we try to...).

Moving up levels in life is essential if we ever want to see any kind of improvement or progress in our lives. Whether it's trying to get a good career, making good friends, learning how to cook or embracing a healthy lifestyle, we all need to understand that everything is a journey, and in every journey you have to take the correct amount of steps in the right direction to reach that ultimate destination. For me right now, getting the best grades I can, becoming healthier (eating right, exercising more, meditating etc.) and focussing on my loved ones are what matter most to me right now. Even with just a couple of things to focus on it can prove hard to change bad habits and become better than how you are now, this is why I'm constantly re-evaluating myself so that I can make improvements all the time.

Re-evaluation is important as you need to look back at what you're doing now, what you were doing before and what you need to do in the future to improve yourself. For example if you want to lose weight, and you're yet to see any pounds being shed take a look at what you're doing now? Are you sitting on your bum watching meaningless TV? Having a meaningless conversation on the phone about nothing really important?... This could be the perfect opportunity to make a quick workout plan. Look at your diary, and find all the free time you have to exercise, whether it be at home, in a park or in the gym. Get up and work out! By looking back and reflecting on your bad habits from the past and then implementing reasonable changes that fit in with you personally you are effectively evaluating yourself and giving the necessary changes. And those changes can start straight away! Not tomorrow, or next week or after your holiday, right now!

Moving from level to level is hard, although when I put it into this little formula it makes it so much easier ;) getting from the level you are at now to a higher level takes hard work. Never give up or be discouraged and surround yourself with people who believe in you and are able to support you. Thank you for reading and keep your eyes peeled on my blog as there's plenty more to come :)

Lots of love

Coco .xo -

Learning To Love Yourself

We've all heard that timeless saying that, 'If you don't love yourself, then nobody else will', but just how close to the truth is this statement.

We've all had that friend that doesn't really think they're anything special when in actual fact, they're pretty damn amazing... I mean they have the perfect eyes, smile, skin etc. and yet still, they constantly obsess over the flaws they have. All these so called 'flaws' they have and it's not attractive. In fact after a while it can become quite annoying.

I have a friend who is absolutely beautiful and yet still she always seems to put herself down, no matter how good she looks there's always something wrong. This type of self-hate is in fact very common amongst us girls because the media, and in essence society encourages us to attach our self-worth and appreciation to thing such as; how popular you are, how many likes on instagram you received, the amount of designer clothes you own and so many other trivial things. Whilst there is nothing wrong in being 'popular', if your self worth is based on that alone then clearly there is something wrong.

Loving yourself is so important when it comes to life, being comfortable in your own skin and accepting your flaws is essential to eternal happiness. I mean how do you expect someone to accept your flaws when you can't embrace the yourself? You hate your stretch marks, but someone is supposed to love them? You feel like that gap in-between your teeth is nasty, but one day somebody is going to love it? ...If you can't see the beauty in yourself then nobody else will. In a recent survey conducted by Psychology Today they found that the majority of women, look up to strong, confident women who appear to be fearless, such as their Mothers or other female family members. Confidence has nothing to do with the way you look per say but more to do with the energy that you radiate. Knowing that you are perfect because of you and not what you wear or how much money you have is what brings inner confidence. If every material thing you have is stripped away and we're left in a World that is blind, what kind of a woman would you be? Hopefully a beautiful one, because we are all perfectly created and deserve to feel that way.

It's not easy learning to love yourself when you feel like you're not worth it, and sometimes it really takes a lot of time to begin to see the beauty in yourself but I've listed a few tips here that will help you be on your way to a happier and more emotionally balanced you.

1. Discover yourself 
Support is obviously a crucial part to human growth but sometimes we need to be alone to truly find out who we are. Go for a walk and give yourself time to think about your life. What are your goals and aspirations, what inspires you? What do you want to get out of life

2. Excercise often! 
Get up and work out! Part of loving yourself is taking care of yourself and if you're not giving your heart that constant work it needs to stay healthy, in the long run this could affect your health. I find that the best time to work out for me is early in the morning as it gives an excellent start to the day but everybody is different, do what's best for you! :)

3. Learn to let go of the past
You're hardly going to get anywhere if you let thoughts of the past linger in your head. The mind is so powerful and if you want to truly love yourself, control it. Your ex-boyfriend called you ugly and so now that defines your whole life? Girllll, get outta here! You're beautiful and you know it, leave those nasty thoughts where they belong!

4. Don't let negativity rule
Anytime you feel a negative thought coming on, replace it with two positive ones. For example; 'I failed my maths test, I'm so stupid'.. could be replaced with 'I'm a kind person who always takes time out to care for others' and 'I'm a talented singer' etc. Loving yourself is an active process, and even the most confident of women need constant boosts to pick themselves up.

5. Get a diary
Sometimes having a place where you can place all your thoughts and feeling can be really empowering and help you to wash the sins of the previous day so you can embrace the new one. My diary helps me to asses the day and put past events into perspective, it feels nice to write down my views on things and not have to filter it. When you look back at old accounts it's sometimes nice to see how far you've come.

6. Forgive yourself
In the past you may have done some bad things but you need to let all that guilt go and start working on becoming a better person. Self-hate stemmed from guilt is often one of the hardest things to get over, constantly remind yourself it's in the past and you're not that person anymore. You've learnt from your mistakes.

7. Be yourself!
You are absolutely perfect! Laugh, cry, sing, jump, cartwheel and hop to your hearts content because it's what YOU want to do. Be comfortable in who you are and let your personality shine through :)

8. Be kind to others 
When you're kind to others, the warmth of your personality shines through and you also feel good to. Compliment your friends when they look good, give to charity, help an old lady with her shopping. These small acts of kindness bring a sense of true humanity to us and make us feel good about ourselves.

9. Say NO
If you don't want to do something, then don't. If you're friend wants to go out and you don't then you don't have to, you shouldn't be coerced into doing things you don't want to. Where's the joy in that?!

10. Stop trying to be perfect
Nobody was born perfect and nobody will die perfect. We all make mistakes and have our flaws, accept this and move on. Who cares if you can't dance like Beyonce or your hair isn't bouncy and curly like Kelly Brook's. Embrace yourself so that you can begin to truly embrace life and be happy.

Thanks for reading and remember that you are so much more beautiful that you could ever imagine.

Peace and love to you all
- .xo

Detective Snoop

So girls, this is for all of you ladies with a particular love interest ;)...

Have you ever had that moment of curiosity when you want to find out literally EVERYTHING about your partner. Being the natural detectives that us fabulous women are, you find out the password of his facebook account/email etc. pretty easily. So then what's next?
I mean all you wanna do is make sure that your relationship is on the right track and at the end of the day if he has nothing to hide then this is not a problem.
At the end of the day all women snoop, you're just performing the rituals of any sane woman who wants to make their relationship work. You need to know the truth...
Has this kind of though pattern ever convinced you to finally just go ahead and in fact go through your mans personal information without his consent. Well if this is the case then you were wrong. Yes hunny, very wrong indeed.

It can sometimes feel like an innate need of ours to check our partners things because we feel a deep connection to them and want to know they feel the same way about us. So we give in to temptation and snooop like no mans business! I have personally fallen into this trap so I understand how you feel when you're making the decision to invade someones privacy because you want to satisfy your inhibitions. Key word being your.. You see snooping is not just harmless hacking that everyone does at one point in their life because they love someone. It is in fact a reaction to your own personal insecurities. If you felt comfortable enough in your own skin to accept the fact that he has his own private life but it isn't a factor that will harm your relationship (because everyone, even you, enjoys having some privacy) then you wouldn't feel the need to snoop.

 At the end of the day relationships are based on trust and the act of snooping can do more harm than good to this essential component, whether or not you do find something. If you're guy has got some skeletons in the closet then they will eventually come out or he may even decide to disclose them to you. It's not your right to go through his stuff, and if you really do have real concerns that he may be concealing something or cheating then just ask, point blank. If he's lying it will be obvious but please please pleaseeee, do not let insecurities get in the way of a good relationship!

You're a strong, independent and confident woman who should spend time learning to love yourself and delete all snoop like behaviours from her life.

I hope this was helpful :)
Ps. If you have friends who are on the verge of snooping please discourage them from doing so, a few wise and empowering words are all a girl needs to hear to stop her from making a silly decision. They'll thank you in the long run.

Have a blessed day .xo