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Monday, 25 August 2014
Tuesday, 19 August 2014
Toxic Friends
Hey my beautiful bloggers,
Well earlier on this month I met up with a good girlfriend of mine and we took a nice trip around the good ol' city of London, sight seeing and having a good old catch up =] (cute huh). I absolutely love summer and the freedom it gives you to really stop and smell the roses, or simply just sit under a tree and read your favourite book! (something I've been doing a lot lately) #NerdAlert *covers face*.
Anywho me and my friend ended up in Haagen Dasz ;)....
And after stuffing our faces with all that ice cream goodness we started having rather deep and meaningful chats about pretty much everything! And it got me thinking about all the types of 'friends', I've had in my life. Good friends, funny friends, cheeky friends, crazy friends, cute friends and ... toxic friends. We've all had them, and the older I've got the easier they've become to spot.
Toxic friends are friends who bring you down, hinder your progress, talk about you behind your back and maybe even bring down your self-esteem. Their motivation for acting this way towards you is simply jealousy. It may be because you're more popular than them, have a boyfriend, have the job they've dreamed of or get better grades than them... Whatever it is, it's causing them to become jealous of you and clearly for them their jealousy towards you is stronger than their value for your friendship.
If you notice you have a toxic friend the best thing you can honestly do for yourself is cut them off. I've actually recently just had to do this and I know first-hand how hard that can be, especially if it is a childhood friend. Luckily for me I have a good network of friends and family I can rely on for support but that didn't mean it was any less hard. It can literally mean leaving your whole friendship group, but trust me when I say if you decide to cut ties with one friend and the rest start acting a certain type of way towards you... cut them off too! Girllllll *American voice* You have no space for 'half-hearted' friends. Keep the friends that support you and don't judge you, the friends that are brutally honest with you but not unkind. If you find yourself 'friendless' when you decide to make a change in friends do not despair! Focus on your career/education, get involved in your community, join a class, join the gym, start blogging! ;) Getting involved in activities you love will take your mind off the life change you just made and is an amazing way to make friends with like minded people.
To conclude, you are an amazing person who deserves to be treated with love and respect. Toxic friends will never give you this.
Thanks for reading beautiful and enjoy your day.
Lots and lots of love
Denver -Xo
Well earlier on this month I met up with a good girlfriend of mine and we took a nice trip around the good ol' city of London, sight seeing and having a good old catch up =] (cute huh). I absolutely love summer and the freedom it gives you to really stop and smell the roses, or simply just sit under a tree and read your favourite book! (something I've been doing a lot lately) #NerdAlert *covers face*.
Anywho me and my friend ended up in Haagen Dasz ;)....
And after stuffing our faces with all that ice cream goodness we started having rather deep and meaningful chats about pretty much everything! And it got me thinking about all the types of 'friends', I've had in my life. Good friends, funny friends, cheeky friends, crazy friends, cute friends and ... toxic friends. We've all had them, and the older I've got the easier they've become to spot.
Toxic friends are friends who bring you down, hinder your progress, talk about you behind your back and maybe even bring down your self-esteem. Their motivation for acting this way towards you is simply jealousy. It may be because you're more popular than them, have a boyfriend, have the job they've dreamed of or get better grades than them... Whatever it is, it's causing them to become jealous of you and clearly for them their jealousy towards you is stronger than their value for your friendship.
If you notice you have a toxic friend the best thing you can honestly do for yourself is cut them off. I've actually recently just had to do this and I know first-hand how hard that can be, especially if it is a childhood friend. Luckily for me I have a good network of friends and family I can rely on for support but that didn't mean it was any less hard. It can literally mean leaving your whole friendship group, but trust me when I say if you decide to cut ties with one friend and the rest start acting a certain type of way towards you... cut them off too! Girllllll *American voice* You have no space for 'half-hearted' friends. Keep the friends that support you and don't judge you, the friends that are brutally honest with you but not unkind. If you find yourself 'friendless' when you decide to make a change in friends do not despair! Focus on your career/education, get involved in your community, join a class, join the gym, start blogging! ;) Getting involved in activities you love will take your mind off the life change you just made and is an amazing way to make friends with like minded people.
To conclude, you are an amazing person who deserves to be treated with love and respect. Toxic friends will never give you this.
Thanks for reading beautiful and enjoy your day.
Lots and lots of love
Denver -Xo
Saturday, 2 August 2014
Dealing With Negativity
Well Heyyy There Dolls,
I would first of all like to say a huge sorry for taking so long to actually make a new post. Life and uni really got in the way of my blogging (places face in palms). But I'm back, vowing never to wander again xD
I hope I'm forgiven though? What was that? A Yes.. Yayyyyy.
So here I am sitting in Caffe Nero with a caramel hot chocolate and I've decided that in this moment combatting negativity is exactly what you guys need to hear above all.
Negativity can come in the form of people, thoughts, settings and situations. And let me tell you now, it has NO place in your life.
Scientific research actually shows that negative energy affects the brain. Just 30 minutes of arguing, moaning and fights etc. will damage neurons. Yes. Neurons, for all my scientific bloggers out there. So I guess that old saying 'complaining turns your brain into mush' actually has some factual basis.
Ever tried to do something productive after an explosive argument? Pretty impossible eh..
And even if you do manage to do something productive it won't be to the standard you know it could potentially be at. So why's that?
Because Negativity takes an emotional and physical toll on you.
Negative People:
- Take your time and energy
- Tend to be emotional leeches
- Essentially want to bring you down with them (so you can both moan for the rest of your lives ;/) *sigh*
So how do you deal with them?
Some tips...
1. Detach yourself from the situation
Don't comment, just listen. The reaction you give is what emotional leeches crave.
2. Try forcing them to tell you something positive
After their little rant is over ask them to tell you something good about their life. Deflecting from their worries is a good thing for both of you, trust me!
3. Focus on YOUR positive energy
Energy is contagious, radiate a spirit that screams happiness! Think about things that make you laugh and include that in your conversations.
"When I am happy, the whole World seems happy, but when I am sad, sadness is all I see"
Your spirit can empower a change in mood. Uplift your conversations with a peacefulness that is a force to be reckoned with.
4. Take Responsibility For Your Role
"When you think everything is someones else's fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy"
If something or someone is making you unhappy then there's only one person keeping you there, no? Every situation is different and complex but as individuals we have the power to control our own lives!
There are so many negative things that unfortunately pollute our auras, make sure that the people around you are not one of them and that the only thing they do for you is lift your spirits.
Thanks for reading and keep your eyes peeled for more
:)
Denver -Xo.
I would first of all like to say a huge sorry for taking so long to actually make a new post. Life and uni really got in the way of my blogging (places face in palms). But I'm back, vowing never to wander again xD
I hope I'm forgiven though? What was that? A Yes.. Yayyyyy.
So here I am sitting in Caffe Nero with a caramel hot chocolate and I've decided that in this moment combatting negativity is exactly what you guys need to hear above all.
Negativity can come in the form of people, thoughts, settings and situations. And let me tell you now, it has NO place in your life.
Scientific research actually shows that negative energy affects the brain. Just 30 minutes of arguing, moaning and fights etc. will damage neurons. Yes. Neurons, for all my scientific bloggers out there. So I guess that old saying 'complaining turns your brain into mush' actually has some factual basis.
Ever tried to do something productive after an explosive argument? Pretty impossible eh..
And even if you do manage to do something productive it won't be to the standard you know it could potentially be at. So why's that?
Because Negativity takes an emotional and physical toll on you.
Negative People:
- Take your time and energy
- Tend to be emotional leeches
- Essentially want to bring you down with them (so you can both moan for the rest of your lives ;/) *sigh*
So how do you deal with them?
Some tips...
1. Detach yourself from the situation
Don't comment, just listen. The reaction you give is what emotional leeches crave.
2. Try forcing them to tell you something positive
After their little rant is over ask them to tell you something good about their life. Deflecting from their worries is a good thing for both of you, trust me!
3. Focus on YOUR positive energy
Energy is contagious, radiate a spirit that screams happiness! Think about things that make you laugh and include that in your conversations.
"When I am happy, the whole World seems happy, but when I am sad, sadness is all I see"
Your spirit can empower a change in mood. Uplift your conversations with a peacefulness that is a force to be reckoned with.
4. Take Responsibility For Your Role
"When you think everything is someones else's fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy"
If something or someone is making you unhappy then there's only one person keeping you there, no? Every situation is different and complex but as individuals we have the power to control our own lives!
There are so many negative things that unfortunately pollute our auras, make sure that the people around you are not one of them and that the only thing they do for you is lift your spirits.
Thanks for reading and keep your eyes peeled for more
:)
Denver -Xo.
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