Well earlier on this month I met up with a good girlfriend of mine and we took a nice trip around the good ol' city of London, sight seeing and having a good old catch up =] (cute huh). I absolutely love summer and the freedom it gives you to really stop and smell the roses, or simply just sit under a tree and read your favourite book! (something I've been doing a lot lately) #NerdAlert *covers face*.
Anywho me and my friend ended up in Haagen Dasz ;)....
And after stuffing our faces with all that ice cream goodness we started having rather deep and meaningful chats about pretty much everything! And it got me thinking about all the types of 'friends', I've had in my life. Good friends, funny friends, cheeky friends, crazy friends, cute friends and ... toxic friends. We've all had them, and the older I've got the easier they've become to spot.
Toxic friends are friends who bring you down, hinder your progress, talk about you behind your back and maybe even bring down your self-esteem. Their motivation for acting this way towards you is simply jealousy. It may be because you're more popular than them, have a boyfriend, have the job they've dreamed of or get better grades than them... Whatever it is, it's causing them to become jealous of you and clearly for them their jealousy towards you is stronger than their value for your friendship.
If you notice you have a toxic friend the best thing you can honestly do for yourself is cut them off. I've actually recently just had to do this and I know first-hand how hard that can be, especially if it is a childhood friend. Luckily for me I have a good network of friends and family I can rely on for support but that didn't mean it was any less hard. It can literally mean leaving your whole friendship group, but trust me when I say if you decide to cut ties with one friend and the rest start acting a certain type of way towards you... cut them off too! Girllllll *American voice* You have no space for 'half-hearted' friends. Keep the friends that support you and don't judge you, the friends that are brutally honest with you but not unkind. If you find yourself 'friendless' when you decide to make a change in friends do not despair! Focus on your career/education, get involved in your community, join a class, join the gym, start blogging! ;) Getting involved in activities you love will take your mind off the life change you just made and is an amazing way to make friends with like minded people.
To conclude, you are an amazing person who deserves to be treated with love and respect. Toxic friends will never give you this.
Thanks for reading beautiful and enjoy your day.
Lots and lots of love
Denver -Xo
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